This was found at Encarta
This is not what I was looking for but it was the closest I could come for the age group believe it or not. Apparently it's something that happens to adults not something that happens in a high school setting.
What are parents teaching their children? Especially some boys?
Ok not all parents just the odd few that make it miserable for the rest of us, who have morals and values and teach our kids right from wrong and that any form of bullying or harassement is not to be tolerated. Yes I'm preaching today. I don't preach much I don't often voice my opinion for fear of hurting someone elses feelings.
What about my daughters feelings. This last nights conversation as she came home from school.
"How was you day?"
"You look very sad, have you been crying?"
"What's the matter? "
"Oh nothing much I'm being paranoid."
"Miranda tell me. Is it something with your boyfriend?"
"Sort of, he's mad at me."
"He said I didn't defend myself when this other boy sort of touched me inapporiately?"
"What did he excatly do?"
"He slammed and pinned me against a wall in front of my friends and groped me to see what reaction he could get out of Tucker."
"What did Tucker Do? "
"Shoved him away but he came back."
"And what did you do?"
"I said No stop and I tried to get away, but he's twice my weight."
"Miranda do you want to file a harrasment complaint against this boy, it's not the first time is it? And this is NOT RIGHT AT ALL!"
"NO I just want it to go away, I must have done something wrong? I must have asked for it, maybe I was flirting but I don't think so I hardly talk to him"
"No Miranda you didn't this is sexual Harassment we have talked about this. When it was over what did you do?"
"I tried to laugh it off Mom. I really didn't know what to do, I felt so icky and sick inside. "
Tucker barely spoke to me after and didn't walk out to the bus with me like he always does. He must be soo mad at me."
And the phone rings it's her friend Matt. Mad as hell at this boy! He cries with her and tells her he will do anything to help her with this boy.
She's 15 and another 15/16 year old is treating her like she is not a human being with feeling and emotions.
She is just an object. None of the kids there knew what to do and are well brought up and know that is is wrong. What bothers me is that NONE of them their tried to stop it(and there was about 10 standing around) and let Miranda try to deal with it on her own. So are we teaching our kids to stand up for others or are we teaching our kids to NOT get INVOLED. Yes it is hard to take a stand at that age, but someone one should have said something. Worst of all I feel LIKE I FAILED in parenting my girl. She should have gotten MAD AS HELL and kneed the young man and fought to get away in some way defended herself, yes she is only 94 lbs soaking wet but she could have done something. Even if it was just screaming her head off that she wanted his hands off of her! Then maybe someone would have stepped in and helped her. All night she felt like she had brought it on herself. SHE DIDN'T. She cried most of the night. I ended up sleeping with her most of the night. So we set up a plan where she takes a few friends with her this morning and tells this boy she wants him to stop touching her and not to talk to her again. OR she will file a harassment complaint against him. Now I have to sit here till 5 to find out what happend. I hope she is strong enough to do this. I told her to use all her aacting abilites to get her through this. I told her she is in a play where she is a tough assed chick to standing up for her rights and we know she can act. Otherwise I'm in there tomorrow to do it myself. ENOUGH.
So people teach your children to step up and not stand by or how to defend themselves against people who do not see this as a problem cause they seem to start out young. I see I do. And you people out there who have children in high school and say that boys will be boys....Get it right...It's WRONG AND A VOILATION OF PERSONAL SPACE. No does MEAN NO!
No SQOB Sorry too anrgy.